12 Factors that Do Not Define Your Worth

There’s a lot of misleading information out there today that leads us to feel that our lives are meaningless. It’s difficult to know how truly valuable you are when negative messages surround us. Regardless of what the media, social media, celebrities, magazines, or any other form of advertising say, here are 12 things that absolutely do NOT define your worth as a person:

1 – Your income.

Everyone is always out for more money and a higher paying job. Even centuries ago, throughout different methods of currency, humans have made the mistake of associating wealth with self worth. That’s basically reducing people to the minuscule value of a tiny rock of copper. Let’s understand that we are so much more than a dollar bill. Income might be a factor when you pay bills, but it does not, in any way, make you more or less of a valuable person.

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2 – Your weight.

Weight loss is discussed everyday, on every channel, in every advertisement. It’s so much of an obsession that we as a country are daily doing the exact opposite of losing weight. It’s because “weight” and “self-worth” have become nearly interchangeable. Let’s be more than a number on a scale. Yes, go for some walks and work on health, but know how amazing you are while you are doing it. You have value, no matter the number of pounds or kilograms.

3 – Your social status.

We are often sent the message that without dozens of friends surrounding us day and night, we aren’t worth people. The truth is, some people like having a lot of friends constantly hanging around – and some do not. Some are fine with one close friend while others need more contact. Some people live in areas where making friends is difficult and others have little desire to meet anyone new. Whatever your style is, it’s perfectly fine. Be you, because that makes you valuable – not striving to meet an expectation sold by TV commercials.

4 – The number of followers you have on social media.

This might be an issue for younger generations, but the number of followers one has, has become synonymous with “worth.” “I’ll be a worthy human when I hit 10K followers.” Again, let’s understand that we are more than a number.

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5 – The number of likes you get on each picture you post.

I’ve felt before that a picture I posted of myself was ugly or annoying just because it didn’t get very many “likes” on social media. I then started to question the way I look, what my caption was, etc. I worried about it for days. I know we all do this. It’s not okay. “Likes” shouldn’t be used as validation of self worth. Do not be harsh on yourself or think less of who you are because you fail to receive a hundred “likes” on social media.

6 – The clothes you wear.

Be comfortable, wear what you like, or follow fashion if it interests you – but never let your worth come from something material. Fashion can be a hobby and. for most, clothes shopping is enjoyable. But the clothes you wear do not define the worth you were born with.

7 – Your mental health.

We live in a world that cultivates mental issues. The majority of the population suffers from depression, anxiety, or other debilitating problems. We are set up to have these issues while being told at the same time that it’s shameful to have these disparities. Take care of yourself and pay attention to your mental state, but never let it define you or shame you. We all have issues, we are NOT our issues. You have value, regardless of if you suffer from some sort of mental illness. You are human, you have value, and you have worth.

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8 – Your physical health.

Another issue with our society is that it tells us we must be pictures of perfect health, while leading us to constantly partake in unhealthy activities – overworking, rushing, stressing, never resting, etc. Most physical ailments aren’t our fault, anyway. Work on health, yes, but do not define your value by it. Having diabetes, a stomach virus, or high blood pressure doesn’t make you any less of a worth person.

9 – Your mistakes.

Your mistakes do not define you. We all screw up, constantly. Everyday is likely to have a few mistakes in it. That’s life, that’s being human. Learn from mistakes, and never let them bring you down. Mistakes are proof that you aren’t sheltered up in a bedroom all day. Step out, try new things, mess up a lot, and live your life. You are NOT your mistakes. You are more than that.

10 – Your career.

This goes along with income and social status, but many people define themselves by their career alone and forget that there is a world outside of work. If you love what you do for a living, that’s great. Just don’t define who you are by something that could be taken away one day. Find a job you love, but remember that you have value outside of work.

11 – The things you own.

Similar to income, we place a lot of self-worth in what car we drive, how clean our home is, and what iPhone we’re going to buy. Things are only things and they won’t last forever, no matter how much money we spend on them. Self worth and value do last forever, so don’t put your value on material items.

12 – What others think about you.

There’s a reason it’s called SELF-worth and SELF-value, SELF-esteem, etc. Others will think what they will, and we have no control over it. Don’t place your value in someone else’s hands. You are worthy. There will always be negative people in the worth. Know that your value is way more than the thoughts of others.


Thanks for reading this post. I hope you have a great day. Remember that you will eternally have value and worth.

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12 Situations Where Silence is Golden

Keeping quiet isn’t always easy, and depending on who you are, it might be seemingly impossible.

Often, staying quiet is a great way to maintain internal peace. No matter how difficult it is to hold your tongue back, here are 12 scenarios when you should ALWAYS avoid saying anything:

1 – Arguments about politics

Politics is a touchy subject for many people. When these people get started debating on a political issue, it’s best to just stay out of it. It’s not something we are ever going to agree on. We don’t have to agree in order to be civil. Whether you disagree with someone or not, it’s wise to avoid the argument.

2 – Arguments about religion

Religion is another subject that the entire world is never going to agree upon. We all have our reasons for practicing the religion of our choice, and thankfully in many countries we also have legal right to do so. So trying to convince everyone that a certain religion is best, is typically a waste of breath.

3 – When others are purposely trying to provoke you

Some people don’t care at all about what they’re preaching, they only want to spark a reaction from others. Just keep quiet around these foolish people. Never give what they desire by taking part in their discussion.

4 – When others are gossiping

Gossip is never a good idea. Even if you and your best friend are alone on a desert island, gossip only causes harm to everyone being discussed and everyone doing the discussing.

5 – When someone is “throwing a fit”

This includes not only young children, but also adults. Grown individuals are sometimes prone to ridiculous, over-the-top, tantrums. Don’t let whatever insults leave these people’s mouths to offend you. Be rational while they’re being irrational.

6 – Arguments about a TV Show, Movie, or other forms of Media

If it’s not a conversation that’s involving  life and death, don’t allow yourself argue about it. We are all free to enjoy or despise any type of television, music, or pop culture item that we want to. Arguing over such things is just ignorant.

7 – Disputes between family members

Don’t get yourself into a position where you are forced to choose sides between two family members. Families fight and make up all the time. Stay neutral and let them work their own issues out.

8 – Disputes between couples

Again, having to choose a side is never a good position to be in. Their issues are their business alone. Don’t get involved.

9 – If you don’t have all the information

Unless all the details are known and out in the open, keep quiet. You don’t want to make a judgement call without having accurate facts.

10 – When others are feeling strong emotions

Sadness, anger, disappointment, and even happiness can lead people to do and say some insane things. Let them get all the adrenaline out of their systems and calm down before having any serious discussions.

11 – If you are feeling strong emotion

We tend to say things we don’t mean when we’re running on high emotion. Calm down before blurting out statements that you might later regret.

12 – If you have nothing positive to say

It’s the rule that your parents and teachers always preached but rarely followed themselves: If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. This should be the golden rule.


Keep your dignity, and maintain your inner peace by staying quiet. The high ground is a nice place to be during these 12 uncomfortable situations. Have a great day free of arguments and heated discussions.


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12 Major Destroyers of Happiness

Happiness is often hard. But why is such a simple concept so difficult to achieve for most of us? Why do we spend most of our time so incredibly unhappy? For most people, the reasons causing unhappiness vary. However, here are 12 major destroyers of happiness that we’re all guilty of utilizing everyday. Sometimes we do these things unknowingly, but the first step towards happiness is contradicting the items on this list and making conscious efforts to stop these bad habits:

1 – Having unrealistic expectations for how things “should” be.

You’ll never be able to enjoy the now if you’re too focused on how things should be. Who sets those expectations anyway? Mostly we get ideas about how life should be from celebrities, T.V. shows, movies, media, etc. Your life isn’t a movie, but it’s still a life worth being happy about. It’s okay to have goals and strive for more, but don’t let achieving the goals get in the way of general joy.

2 – Comparing yourself to others.

Comparing ourselves to others – whether it’s looking at careers, weight/appearance, material items, houses, the way our kids behave – literally anything – comparing is no good at all. No good will come from it. Strive to be better than your yesterday self. Don’t worry about what others are up to in their lives.

3 – Seeing others on social media and thinking their lives are perfect.

We tend to only see the tip of the iceberg when looking at someone’s social media page. Most people only post their best moments. Don’t make the mistake of thinking these people never have bad moments. We all have good days and bad days, even the professional posters on social media.

4 – Listening and trusting every word the media says.

The media tends to be negative no matter what the subject matter is. Take everything with a hint of skepticism if you are interested in watching the news and daily updates from the media.

5 – Rushing through life.

Take time to stop and “smell the flowers.” When something makes you smile, stop and allow yourself to be happy for a moment instead of immediately moving on.

6 – Negative self-talk.

The worst bully we have is typically the voice inside our own heads. Don’t bully yourself and say mean things all day because you’ll never be able to enjoy anything in life.

7 – Negative friends.

Some people are walking lessons of how not to be. Learn from negative friends, but distance yourself. It’s hard to stay positive if you are around negativity all day.

8 – Regretting.

Let it go. Make peace with your demons. Nothing kills the mood like bad memories and harsh regrets. The past is over. Don’t let it ruin your now.

9 – Judging others.

Judging others is the action of those who are insecure with themselves. For some reason, it briefly makes us feel better when we criticize others. But in the long run, it only serves to fuel our own self-judgement. Stop judging others and you will learn to stop judging yourself.

10 – Failing to take good care of yourself.

Self care isn’t selfish – it’s vital. Take good care of your mind and body and you’ll open up the opportunity to be happy.

11 – Not making time for fun.

Fun is also vital. Break out of the work-eat-sleep cycle a couple times each week and have some genuine fun.

12 – Thinking we are alone in our struggles.

Everyone we meet is going through something difficult. The second we all realize this is the second we quit having pity parties and start connecting with others. Feeling alone is beyond damaging. A major way to work through issues is to see others living life and conquering their demons, too.


Thanks for reading this post. I hope you can let go of whatever might be destroying your happiness. Seek out professional help, too. Life is too short to be unhappy.

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